Bad advice on BF

So glad to be back at our own home. Spent the weekends at hubby's kg to celebrate my son's full moon. The party went great and I enjoyed seeing and "updating" with my friends after my long confinement. But what I can't stand is the advices given by well meaning ILs regarding BF. I don't mind the advices itself but the way they gave it yang bikin panasss. Like, they insist you to follow exactly what they say.

Here's some:

1. This one from my MIL. The moment she saw me BF my son she said, "You should train your baby to drink from bottle (meaning formula) so that other people can babysit him." I just smiled. Hubby came to the rescue, explaining about EBM, pumping etc etc.
   
2. One time I woke up my son to BF because my breasts were engorged and I did not bring my pump. Later on, the elder said that next time I should picit2 my breast first to kasih keluar some of the susu yang bangas. I was speechless. Breastmilk that is still in the breast can spoil meh! I never read this but logically thinking there's nothing wrong with BM no matter how long it stays in the breasts (if it's possible than all mom can produce cheese from their breast lorr). The only risk is your breast becoming painfully engorged and sometimes can lead to blocked duct.
3. Than my SIL told me to give some water to my son. Which I totally refuse. And she was so unsatisfied that she repeat it again to my hubby. Luckily my hubby is so well informed (after hearing my "sharing" on BF). And he said, "No, we won't give our baby any water until he starts to eat solid". Hahaha, I win. But now I'm sooo nervous to let her babysit (hai, mana tau she give water oh).
4. Now my SILs know how stubborn I am (yes, I may keep quiet and won't confront you or talk back but I won't do what I don't want to), they rally on my hubby. Kesian hubby but it's ok because he can answer back his own sisters. They keep pressuring to use formula milk. The reason? Baby more intelligent. Excuse me? Are you insulting me? Do you mean to say that MY breast milk will produce dumb baby? Just because FM is very expensive compare to BM, which is totally free, doesn't make it more superior. FM is man made. How can it ever be in the same league with BM?
5. And they said that the rashes on my son's face is cause by my heaty BM. No comment.

Nasib baik my son is quite a big baby. At least they can not say that my BM is not enough. I'm so so thankful that my mom took care of me during confinement. She support BF 100%. Me and my siblings are all fully breastfed. I was breastfed until I was 4 yo because my little sister is 8 years younger than me. Aaand my mother, that never had any formal education, knows that fully breastfed babies don't need any extra water. Cool.

P/S: My ILs are actually great and I really do get along well with them. This is just a letting-off-steam session.

Confinement

I'm so lucky that my mom was able to come and stay with me for almost 3 weeks during my confinement. Actually she planned to stay for a month but something came up at kampung. But by that time I was okay staying alone while hubby goes to work.

Some part of the pantang-larang during confinement was really terrible for me. I hate that I cannot wash my hair for a month! But I managed to pujuk my mom to let wash my hair after 2 weeks. I mean seriously, who can tahan oh? Sudah lah that time the weather was so hot and then cannot berkipas-kipas again. Yuck! I also hate that I only can take a shower once a day-aaand had to use herbal bath that was very hot in the afternoon! And I absolutely hate that I was literally sweating all day...pheww. So glad that the 1 month is up.

Luckily I find that I can tolerate the food:
Breakfast - Porridge + milk
Lunch - Rice + herbal/ginger soup
Evening - Biscuits
Dinner - Rice + herbal/ginger soup
Supper - Biscuits + milk

The Food:

Ayam kampung masak halia

This is how my herbal soup using herbs below:

Hehe...Luckily I didn't get constipation even though I didn't eat any vege at all (because my mom believe that it's cold). But I'm still stuck with eating these food because my hubby want me to continue until 40 days. I want to eat some vegetables but I'm such a coward to not follow my hubby punya advice (nanti ketulahan sama laki, adakah?).

Full Moon (or New Moon?)

Gerard is 1 mo. This is him lepaking with the dad (excuse the dad's bellybutton-terescape from the black bar). Yesterday went to Dr Kuan for his hepatitis B shot. Luckily he didn't get fever after that, but definitely super clingy the whole night.

Current weight: 4.5 kg (gain 1.2 kg through mum's milk alone, yeah!)
Current length: 55 cm

Now, I'm through with confinement but the hubby still want me to eat rice & soup only. Ciss, lebih2 from my mom pula!

Will update later. Baby is crying la...

It's certainly is better!

Better by Boyzone

Our love has changed, it's not the same
And the only way to say it is say it, it's better

I can't conceal this way I feel
For all the times we've spend together
Forever just gets better

See what I'm trying to say is
You make things better
And no matter what the day is
With you here it's better

I'll stand by you if you stand by me
I think it's time that I reveal it
'Cause I believe it, it's better

See what I'm trying to say is
You make things better
And no matter what the day is
With you here it's better

Oh, the more I talk to you
I fall in love with everything you do, oh

See what I'm trying to say is
You make things better
And no matter what the day is
With you here it's better

Our love has changed, it's not the same
And the only way to say it is say it, it's better...

Can't get this song out of my mind. Very sweet indeed.